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Truth #387: Relationships Are Messy

Date Added: 2012-01-19 09:26:50 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (1)

There's something about the idea of "stability" that never sat well with me. Maybe I'm too young to understand its importance or the possibility of what "stability" really looks like. Maybe I've thrived so much on jumping from opportunity to opportunity that instability has become all that is recognizable to me. One thing I do know...neither Mike or I are "stable" by anyone's definitions.

Relationship & Love: Is It Time To Break Up?

Date Added: 2012-01-03 09:33:47 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (0)

Breaking up is hard to do after your feelings for the other person have developed past a certain point. It should be expected that breakups are going to be messy, but before you get there, there needs to be a period where you have to sit and ponder if a breakup should even be a possibility.

Personally, I'm horrible at taking time to think before I decide to cut people off whether it be in...

Relationship & Love: When Did Dating Become A Sport?

Date Added: 2011-12-12 09:14:10 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (0)

I believe I said this before in the past but I absolutely despise dating. I hate getting to know new people and I hate feeling like I have to bring my often unpredictable personality down from a level 10 to a calm level 4ish in order for the new people I hate having to "get to know" to like me in some way that makes them want to further get to know me. It's absolutely ridiculous to me and I fast...

Relationships & Love: What If They Still Miss Their Ex?

Date Added: 2011-11-21 11:03:37 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (3)

A song I have been playing on HEAVY rotation lately has been "Marvin's Room" by Drake. And then when I found out there were remixes (i.e. Teyana Taylor, Jojo, etc) it was crazy how many times I played one variation or the other. For awhile, I was seriously obsessed guys!!!

But, after awhile, the lyrics didn't sit right with me. The more I read different blogs, comments, tweets, Facebook m...

Are We Raised Not Knowing How To Love?

Date Added: 2011-11-04 12:09:30 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (0)

The release of Lil Wayne's newest music video "How To Love" has left many speechless about the amount of depth portrayed by the rapper. I'm really not a fan of the actual song but the song alongside the video did give me a lot to think about. See the video below if you haven't already:

Powerful stuff right? Although I'm not a fan of extreme visuals being used to portray a certain message,...

Relationships & Love: Serial Monogamy

Date Added: 2011-10-05 11:06:27 | JournalisticChic | Comments: (5)

"We are done. We broke up last week. What's going on this weekend? I need to find a new boo."  These are typical, thirsty words of an individual who can't stand the notion of being alone for 1/8 of a second after the fall of a romantic relationship.  Absurd or common? Is it the fear of sleeping, eating or having fun, alone? Mastering monogamy is a task in itself and now you want to be ...

5 Reasons We Don't Believe in Cuffing Season

Date Added: 2011-09-29 12:58:40 | Crystal Tate | Comments: (0)

Fall is officially here, and that also means that cuffing season has begun. Cuffing season is that time of year when the weather starts to cool off, and most men (and women!) look for a main squeeze that they can spend cold nights with. Although it may work for some of you (and could possibly turn into something more), we aren't really a fan of it. Read on for our five reasons why we're against ...

Relationships: Love vs. Infatuation

Date Added: 2011-09-27 11:26:32 | Crystal Tate | Comments: (0)

When you first meet someone, it sometimes feels like love at first sight when it's really infatuation. And sometimes you think you're infatuated with someone when you're really falling in love. So how do you tell the difference between the two? Here are some key signs:

If you are physically attracted to the person, you may be infatuated.
If you are physically, mentally and emotionally ...

5 Horribly Wrong Ways to Tell Your Girlfriend She’s Dating a Loser

Date Added: 2011-09-19 11:18:32 | Chazeen of WWMD | Comments: (0)

We love it when our girlfriends meet nice guys. But what do you do when she falls in love with a loser besides issuing him the standard greeting: the arched eyebrow, the hand on the hip, and the epic straight-face?

In addition to expressing your unremitting disapproval make sure to devise a sensitive and effective way of telling your girlfriend that she’s dating a chump. And as you hem yo...

Relationships & Love: Is the Race Card Still An Issue?

Date Added: 2011-09-16 14:59:58 | Crystal Tate | Comments: (0)

When it comes to dating, most Black women prefer to date only Black men. However, when a Black women chooses to only go out with men that look like her (for whatever her reason may be), she could be limiting herself. When Vibe magazine recently asked Kelly Rowland if she dated non-black men, she responded,  "I've been down with the swirl."  Learn five reasons why Black women should con...

Relationships: Cheaters Never Win

Date Added: 2011-09-12 11:36:28 | Michael Richie | Comments: (2)

Those of you who have cheated on someone in the past, have been cheated on, cheated on a test, or done anything with the hopes of getting away with it understand the lure and intrigue of deception and essentially "having your cake and eating it too."

In terms of logic, it would be foolish to not try and cheat, if you know the probability and statistics of error. In terms of moral...

Love: Can You Turn A Jerk Into A Gentleman?

Date Added: 2011-09-06 11:56:34 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (0)

I asked the question in a past post entitled "You're a Jerk" of whether it was easier to turn a trick/hoe into a housewife or a jerk into a gentlemen. The short answer I have found is that it's impossible to do either.

I'll start this post by first admitting that I know and befriend a lot of jerks. I like jerks for the same reason many other women choose to date them. They provide a certa...

Relationships: 5 Reasons Why She Has A Good Man And You Don't

Date Added: 2011-09-02 13:18:48 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (1)

Men have always and will always be different than women. They respond differently to situations than we do, date differently, and interact differently. Instead of getting pissed off and asking your friends why men do the things they do, here's a thought, why not honestly pull yourself out of what you want a guy to do and start understanding things on his terms?

We all have those friends o...

Love: Do Men Think Long Distance Relationships Are A Waste Of Time?

Date Added: 2011-08-29 07:49:27 | Chazeen of WWMD | Comments: (0)

Many women believe that long distance relationships are possible.  Most men believe different…

THIS WOMAN IS SIDING WITH THE MEN

What makes long distance relationships so great? In my opinion nothing really. You hardly see the person, you probably only have sex once a month, expensive travel arrangements, you probably only have sex once a month, the question of faithfulness ar...

Relationships: Do You Believe In Love Or Are You Just In Love With It?

Date Added: 2011-08-23 09:40:04 | Carla Clunis | Comments: (0)

There's a difference between being in love with love and believing in it. I was never an avid fan of being in love with it as I always thought being in love with an idea is a surefire way to set you up for failure. Many of my past relationships where I felt some form of love fell apart not because that's just how life is but because one or both of us decided we no longer wished to be with the ot...