Know Your Role ... Ladies!
Date: 2010-07-08 | By: Karina Martinez
Filed under: Relationship & Sex Advice
Ever wonder why the divorce rate is so high or you hear your friends complain about their partner? Well, in most cases the problem is that women are trying to play the man's role in the relationship and men get frustrated they end up walking away alone or with someone more compatible. If you want your relationship to work, the solution is simple, work at making it work.
With changing times; people change. You can’t expect the person you met 10 years ago to still think and act the same way. You have to grow together, continue to challenge and learn about each other. Being the boss, selfishly demanding, and nagging about his faults only pushes the person away.
Remember those first couple of months of being together, you would go all out to please him, want to know his favorite food or sport to surprise them. Remember letting him decide where to take you for dinner or vacation. Now you have gotten comfortable and expect him to stay home with you every weekend.
The way to keep you and your man happy is to learn to play your role in the relationship. Allow him to be the decision maker, protector, and leader. You have to also play your role by being a care giver, lover, supporter, and visionary. You cannot have two people trying to play the same role, eventually they will clash and disagree. Step back and think about your strengths and weakness, and how it can be changed by only you to become a better mate. Who wants a boss at home? Let him go out with his friends and be his own person, you don’t own or control him. Don’t let the partnership fail like in Usher’s case with Tameka Foster. Rumors were swirling at the time of their divorce that Tameka was jealous, controlling, and bitter. Consequentially Usher just got fed up and bounced.
Am I asking you to give in and compromise? Yes. At work you may have to be the decision maker and manage your employees, but at home you have to be a team player and follower. It’s not bad to be a follower, when it’s the man you love.
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F*** that!!
I love my man, but I have the college degree and better credit. Finances, decision making, do you think I'm not going to speak up. Somethings I'm better at, somethings he's better at. I never will be the barefoot and pregnant woman cooking 24/7.
Do we live in the 1800's.You can be a "kept" woman if you like!You have to find a balance in your relationship that both parties understand.Women and Men hold your ground and compromise for things to be equal,don't allow your man to "run you"
The only roles I will play are, part-time cook, part-time cleaning service, full-time student, mother and wife, provider, teacher and guide. My husband roles are part-time cook, part-time cleaner, full time husband, student, father, provider, teacher and guide. Get it? We're equal!!!!
i had hard time thinking who was the ladie then i saw it was tameka foster so i was ohhhh so i was saying usher was married in then i said yes he was and he divorce
I have a hard time believing this bogus article. 60% of divorces are filed by women, I bet it's higher for black women. The major cause is financial issues.
And another thing, if a woman is trying to dominate the entire relationship, what room does the man have to operate in the relationship?!?! Don't try to control everything, that will only leave you bitter and frustrated all the time.
Yes the woman DOES have to allow a man to be a man. I am NOT saying that we should be cowards, however if you have a man who loves you and is doing what's required for the relationship to thrive, why wouldn't you trust yourself to trust him as the leader?!?!